Day 2: Mission 3 and 4

Mission 3: Look into their eyes
The point of this exercise is to make conversation with 5 more strangers, but this time to make a note of eye colour.  This means that it is inevitable that you will make eye contact.  I think its safe to say that I don’t have a problem with making conversation with strangers, but I gave it a try anyway whilst I was at work.  They put me on the kiosk and my plan was get a bit of till receipt and write down all the colours.  But lost in the business I forgot.  But I promise you that make conversation. 

I remember one eye colour of one lady with a raspy voice, which was green.  She bought a scratch card which we joked about winning with. 

Mission 4: Hint for tomorrow
Read tomorrows mission before you do anything.

Drunken Experiment of Curiosity…

For the last few weeks I’ve been toying with the idea of becoming a male escort.  I will admit, as I’ve been thinking about this I’ve been leaning towards extreme complacency.  I thought “How hard can it be…Get to meet new people…getting paid, most likely cash in hand…and you can use it as an outlet for getting more experience in the bedroom…” 

Anyway, I’ve busy doing things and this idea has slowly faded.  But since the day of Revelations , the idea has recently popped back into my head.  I mean, from what I’ve learnt I’m taking enough chances or being experimental enough with my life.  I’m not trying to become some sort of libertine, but I am sooooo bored. 

Right! So let me get to the point, last night when I got home from work the plan was to go to the pub with a few friends and so I was bracing myself for that, not much to expect really.  Anyway I found out I was getting a lift to and from the pub so I cracked open a cold one as soon as possible and helped myself to some of my brothers domino’s pizza.  When I got picked up, we started off at The Druid’s Headin Kingston Market had a pint of Stella, then we went to The Mill (which is a pub I don’t like because of the Indy/student client-tell, the layout and the smell, its by the river and I suspect that they have a drain problem.) 

When we got to The Mill we met some undesirable characters who we knew from school.  So we had one drink and then moved on, as a party piece we put a load of crap songs on the juke box before we left (my such rebels).  Then we went to The Coconut, which has turned into our local for some reason.  Its a student pub, its OK but not great.  By this time I was on my fourth pint, and I realised that I walked into The Coconut with the same glass I left The Mill with, so I didn’t come out of there empty handed.

So I sat, did the the whole socialising thing and then I got a lift home.  The drinks I had went straight to my head and when I got home, I powered up the laptop and went into google for a search for escorts and how to become one.  My search ended in me putting in details in registering with Majestic Escorts.  I was drunk at the time and now I’m totally don’t know what to expect, what if I get a phone call!?  What if I get an Email?!

I’m not sure what to do, I’m thinking take it as it comes.  Play it by ear.

Bacchus Last Night…

Last night I went to Bacchus in Kingston, for a drink and a bit of a dance. 
It was a Wednesday and they usually have Planet of Sound on, which has been going for a long and still plays the best music of the week.  Its alternative indie, so old and new rock type stuff. 

My aim for the whole night was to pull a girl, wasn’t really bothered about looks, I just needed a little bit of closeness.  But when I got in, I just fell out of the zone for some reason, I wasn’t sure if I could be bothered so I just got amazingly tipsy, but not drunk enough to pass out. 

We got in there at about 10:45ish, and it was completely dead. We were literally the first ones in there.  So we had a few drinks and then it started to fill up.  It was funny because we was dancing away on the dance floor and we were the only ones, god knows what the bar ladies must have thought. Still someone has to start dancing otherwise its just going to be a pants, and last night was our night to start. 

They had a really good DJ as well, they were playing T-REX, David Bowie, AC/DC and lots of other really cool songs.  So it was quite a good night in total, I didn’t pull and I felt a little down about that but I guess…

Better luck next time.

Yesterday, a day of revelations Part 2.

Its Thursday, and now when I refer to “yesterday” I really mean Tuesday. 

The second big thing to happen is that when I walked into the locker room at sainsbury’s I was told about the news of my manager being escorted out of the store by police because she had been stealing money.  I was in shock. 

The story is as follows…
The regular procedure that happens is flighting your till, this means taking out the coupons and money, putting it in a little bag, then into a pod and then putting it a shoot to go to some magical place.  My manager on Sunday, took money out of one of the tills, put it in the bag and in the pod and instead of putting it in the shoot she left it there to collect later, which she did (as what I’ve been told). 

On the Monday, when they were counting how much money they have in each till (this happens everyday) they had found that one of the tills was around £600 pounds short.  After further speculation which lead to reviewing the CCTV footage, they saw the manager steal the money (as the story goes).  On the Tuesday morning, the police arrived and escorted her out of the store. 

Now, to me this sounds a bit strange as the whole situation makes her look as if she wanted to get caught.  She knows that there is a camera above each till, and apart from being my manager she is also chief cashier so there would have been different, less obvious ways to steal money.  I’m no fool, since we got a new assistant checkout manager, I think they have suspected someone is stealing.  I think this because I few months ago, I got searched 4 times in 4 weeks, and then they put us on allocated tills (for example, only allowed to work on tills 1-5), they went really relaxed to being really on the ball. 

I’m unsure of the motives behind this rumoured crime, but if its true I would put it down to a nervous break down.  I feel sorry for her if this is the case, because she has always been good to me as a manager, I got overtime when there was no overtime and I got holiday when I needed it at short notice, and she never used to mind. 

I think things are going to be run differently now and I’m not sure if its going to come as a bit of a culture shock.

Day 2: Mission 1 and 2

Mission 1: Goals

1. What three accomplishments would you like to achieve to make you happier?
-Become better on playing the guitar and eventually be good enough to play in local pubs and clubs.  
-Become an aspiriational radio disk jockey at a radio station be it local, hospital or national. 
-Become better at public speaking making people relaxed in my company. 

2. What are the reasons these accomplishments will make you happier?
These accomplishments will make me happier, purely because I hope people will begin to see me in a different light, more confident and outgoing.  I know I’m not going to be a rock star, but I would like to try rather than be like all the other guys who are just following the trends. 

3. What is your personal mission?
I will become a radio DJ.
Who will be more noticed.
Within 3.5 months. 

4. 3 specific results.
I will have Regular placements within radio stations in my area.
I will have A good reputation as a local celebrity.
I will have Earned more money via tid bits and schemes. 

5. Why are you now fully committed to pursuing your personal mission?
If I don’t pursue it now…
My Drive to succeed in life will decrease.
My University course will fail.
My Image of myself  will decrease.

If I do pursue it now…
My hope of getting a girlfriend will come true. 
My outlook on life will increase. 
My income will increase.

Mission 2: Look Into Your Eyes 

Listen to an audio recording at www.stylelife.com/challenge.

Day 1: Mission 3

Mission 3: Operation Small Talk

I think this mission is for the benefit of the people who really struggle with talking to people.  In the book, in short it simply states that I should make conversation with total strangers.

 

 

Im not sure if this is cheating, but fortunately I work at a supermarket on the tills and have ample full of opportunity to make conversation with complete strangers.  I can’t give you details on all the social interactions that I face, as I deal with alot of people throughout the day.  Some can be more memorable than others, but overall its just idle chit chat and usually means nothing. 

But this completes Day 1.

Yesterday, A day of revelations Part 1.

You know when you wake up in the morning, and at the back your mind you know something major or what you think is a big deal will come your way, be it good or bad?  Well yesterday was defiantly that day, times 2. 

I planned to have a bit of a jam with my friend at some point, so I did that and then I came home to prepare for my seven to eleven night shift at sainsbury’s.  I was making a cup of tea and checking my correspondence when I received a phone call from girl I used to go out with and have a bit of a thing for.  (The thing ended about 3-6 months ago now, I’ve been avoiding her as my patience has worn thin) Anyway, she wanted to know if she could dodge overtime that she had booked, which was a blatant NO!  But as it transpired this was not the purpose of the phone call, she kept on complaining about being tired and a bit of a state from a night out…

Naturally being suspicious I asked, why are you in such state, what have you been up to? And then she had told me who she had spent the night with…I knew the story before she even told it to me.  The guy in question I knew from school, and I never like him or his mates, in a nut shell, they are not to be trusted, and I make a point of avoiding them.  It turns out that she had got really drunk, and most likely with the influence of the guy, really stoned aswell.  The story does not stop there, this guy has a girlfriend, AND the more shocking bit is that, the guy and the girl I used to date went bare back…no rubber! 

I couldn’t believe it, not only did she get with a complete wanker but she did it unsafely.  At first I was in shock, but then I looked at the situation and thought, that guy had to get her off her face to agree to anything, what a creep and how morally wrong is that!  But in saying that, it takes two to tango right? 

And I know its bad, but I’ve looked at my ex in a different light, she’s not the same as when I first met her.  I just feel so disappointed, because I’m not sure if this is how the world probably functions?  Is this something to rationalise? I’m not sure, but its safe to say that the next few months is going to interesting as to see what comes out of the woodwork. 

I never knew growing up would be this complicated.

Work Today!!!

I work at a sainsbury’s supermarket, In Cobham England on the checkouts (if any of you readers go in, I wonder if you work out who is writing this blog . I don’t mind it, its a bit of no brainer kind of job, not alot to it, but it helps to have a personality because you come across a huge variety of different people, some more tolerable than others, others more gimmicky sane than some.  Catch my drift?

Anyway, my shift started at half seven this morning and finished at half four in the afternoon, At first I was dreading it, I thought, oh no, have to get up early which I’m not going to be able to do, and its going to be dead, which I don’t like, and I’m going to have to make small talk with the night staff which is hard because those people are basically nocturnal, and usually on some kind of mental stimulant. 

But as a matter of fact it wasn’t too bad, I made the sweet stand look nice, which was quite theraputic, then I was put on till 22, and then put on the kiosk.  So it was quite a varied day.  However, I’ve started leaning towards working on the online team, they have more woman and I think I might feel more comfortable…? Something I could think about? But I’m not sure I would like all that walking, I’m always complaining of being tired as it is. 

I’ll sleep on it.

An Idea About Body Language

One thing that I am so conscious about is staying ahead, ahead of everyone and everything.  If you think ahead you can plan and prepare for what is to come.  (A little ocd I know, but helps to be at an advantage)

Anyway, in my quest of change and to try new things to cure my boredom, I’ve decided to read up and conduct a little social experiment based on human body language.  The book I’m reading is Body Language by Allan Pease, in it tells you all the subconscious actions of human behaviour.  For instance checking when someone is lieing by the way they move, or if they like someone by the way they are sitting. 

The point being, the power of the mind is greater than the body, so therefore this are actions we all do without even realising, so I wonder if it is possible to catalyst these movements?  I shall read the book and try and find out what I can use and what I can’t. 

However I expect there to be some pros and cons to this idea, one of the pros I should think will be the ability to acutely sense how or what someone is thinking and one of the cons is that I might become paranoid of my own actions.

I shall report back with my findings (hoping something remotely interesting will happen).

Day 1: Missions 1 And 2

Mission 1: Evaluate Yourself. 

1. Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you. 
I think, or I like to think that people see me as a pretty harmless sort of chap, but with a sick or slightly eccentric sense of humour.  I think some people see me as an intelligent or shrewd person.  I’m almost pretty sure people think I’m a pessimist or ingoing (as apposed to outgoing) sort of person.  I know I’ve been described as funny, because of the way I tell or relate to different stories or experiences.  

2. Write one or two sentences describing how you would like to be perceived by others.
I want people to see me as a ”cool” person to hang around with.  I have ginger hair, which as expected comes with alot of stigma, some good, some bad either way this has left me a bit confused as to whether I should be bothered or not.  I think I’m seen as the “nice guy” which is an image I want to keep, but maybe add a slight edge to that image that says “He’s a nice guy, but I wouldn’t want to take advantage or mess him around.” 

3. List three of your behaviors or characteristics which you would like to change.
My pessimism.
My strange habit of hesitation, which leads me to think of the consequences.
My laziness. 

4. List three new behaviors or characteristics you would like to adopt.
A sense of fearlessness.
A sense of being more outgoing.
A sense of having “no shame.”

Mission 2: Read Chapter “The Chains That Bind”

Easy mission this one…